Repeat that sentence as often as needed.  What’s something you’re working on reinventing?  I’ll go first. Something I've been struggling with in the process of shedding old parts of my identity for new ones that better serve me; fear of losing my sense of humor.  Don't get me wrong, I will always place a high value on playfulness in life. The ability to not take myself too seriously is something I return to often, especially when I start to stray into the territory of taking myself way too seriously (usually in my work). I've learned to catch it earlier these days and realign with the bigger picture and the bigger initiative. Happiness. Freedom. Expansion. That usually snaps me back pretty quickly.  But when I started down this path, I didn't realize I'd have to sideline something that I always felt served me so well.  My sense of humor has historically weighed heavily on the sarcastic side. Heavily being a kind understatement. I used to lead with sarcasm for just about everything. Opening conversations, continuing conversations, closing conversations - you get the idea. Thing is; it worked. Until it didn't. A lot of that sarcasm was a distraction. An avoidance of what was really going on and a coverall for expressing any sort of true vulnerability. It was an escape route. Taking the backdoor was (a lot) easier than taking a serious look at life and deciding I can do something about it, instead of just cracking jokes about it.  That sarcasm was even more potent in the form of self-deprecation. Sure, we all can use a bit of humbling now and then, but knocking yourself completely off the podium every time wears pretty tough on the psyche.  I think we all develop a sense of humor for good reason. Humor connects us. It brings us together over shared experiences and shared perspectives. I also think it's important to expand our capacity to connect beyond humor. Invite in some real reflection and some genuine vulnerability. True honesty, with ourselves and with others.  That kind of courage creates connections that are much deeper than any dose of stand alone sarcasm.  Then sprinkle in the playful sarcasm for good measure. 😉

Repeat that sentence as often as needed.

What’s something you’re working on reinventing?

I’ll go first. Something I've been struggling with in the process of shedding old parts of my identity for new ones that better serve me; fear of losing my sense of humor.

Don't get me wrong, I will always place a high value on playfulness in life. The ability to not take myself too seriously is something I return to often, especially when I start to stray into the territory of taking myself way too seriously (usually in my work). I've learned to catch it earlier these days and realign with the bigger picture and the bigger initiative. Happiness. Freedom. Expansion. That usually snaps me back pretty quickly.

But when I started down this path, I didn't realize I'd have to sideline something that I always felt served me so well.

My sense of humor has historically weighed heavily on the sarcastic side. Heavily being a kind understatement. I used to lead with sarcasm for just about everything. Opening conversations, continuing conversations, closing conversations - you get the idea. Thing is; it worked. Until it didn't. A lot of that sarcasm was a distraction. An avoidance of what was really going on and a coverall for expressing any sort of true vulnerability. It was an escape route. Taking the backdoor was (a lot) easier than taking a serious look at life and deciding I can do something about it, instead of just cracking jokes about it.

That sarcasm was even more potent in the form of self-deprecation. Sure, we all can use a bit of humbling now and then, but knocking yourself completely off the podium every time wears pretty tough on the psyche.

I think we all develop a sense of humor for good reason. Humor connects us. It brings us together over shared experiences and shared perspectives. I also think it's important to expand our capacity to connect beyond humor. Invite in some real reflection and some genuine vulnerability. True honesty, with ourselves and with others.

That kind of courage creates connections that are much deeper than any dose of stand alone sarcasm.

Then sprinkle in the playful sarcasm for good measure. 😉

Life by Design was born out of a need for my own self-healing after decades of unresolved illness. It wasn’t until finding the courage to look within that I discovered it was my own belief system holding me back from experiencing a truly thriving life. We all have access to that thriving life. We just need to rediscover our power and ignite the healing-self. Only then can we unapologetically live a life by our own design.