I haven’t had much time to write this week but I did have a long drive out into the California desert this past weekend. With it, came a lot of thinking space. And emo music.
While I was emoting, I started to wonder, what are emotions exactly? I know we can physically pattern thoughts in the brain as they run their neural circuits, we can identify feelings through body sensations and label them with language (especially if we’re really paying attention), and we can recognize our behaviors as they are carried out as a result of those thoughts and feelings.
Emotions, are more elusive though. Not only are they hard to physically identify, but they seem to be the only category out of that list in which we all collectively share the same set. Meaning; we each have our own unique set of thoughts, we feel our feelings in different ways throughout our bodies, and we express ourselves with our own set of learned behaviors, but when it comes to emotions there’s only so many we’re capable of experiencing. More importantly, we’ll all experience each one, to varying degrees and durations, throughout this lifetime.
What if there’s only so many emotions to go around for everyone? We’re all just sharing some big collective of emotions drifting around, paying one person a visit after another. Staying only long enough to teach us what we need to know before moving on to the next student.
And it’s our work to recognize that they are only visitors, not residents, and resist the temptation to claim them as property. Resist holding so tightly that they become our definition of self.
You are not sad, angry, anxious, depressed or even eternally happy. You are human and therefore you experience these emotions, but they are not you.
Since emotions are their own entity, like any of us working to claim our individuality, they just want to move from unseen to seen so they can be felt. They want their own metamorphosis. Transforming from an intangible emotion into a palpable feeling so they can be moved through the body and set free again.
Free to roam the earth and touch another soul. Teach another lesson. Transfer its wisdom.
Life by Design was born out of a need for my own self-healing after decades of unresolved illness. It wasn’t until finding the courage to look within that I discovered it was my own belief system holding me back from experiencing a truly thriving life. We all have access to that thriving life. We just need to rediscover our power and ignite the healing-self. Only then can we unapologetically live a life by our own design.