“Nothing in nature blooms all year long, be patient with yourself."
Sitting at dinner on my last night in Mexico, surrounded by inspiring and empowering women, discussing everything from crazy college stories to neuroscience and psychology this quote came to mind. We were talking about the positive psychology movement and how it's affected our culture, and subsequently our well-being.
For a long time, we were made to believe that staying positive, happy, and optimistic was the default setting we should all be operating from. That continual happiness was always the goal. But staying positive all the time is unrealistic, and quite honestly exhausting.
To top it off, it goes against the laws of nature. We were built to experience both negative and positive emotions. Without one, we wouldn't know the other. In its simplest form, those emotions are the information we use to move us towards what's working for us and away from what's not. If you feel lonely, insecure, depressed, or anxious, it's a nudge in the right direction, not a personal fault. If you feel loved, safe, elated, and triumphant it's reassurance that whatever circumstances lead to that feeling are good for your survival, and in this modern world - a step closer to a thriving meaningful life.
So as the seasons change, leaves are shed, and nature retreats for the winter, remind yourself that you don't have to fight to stay in the light of positivity. That it's all natural. It's all part of the cycle of birth and rebirth. Surviving and thriving. And like nature, the most profound growth often comes from a season of dormancy.
Life by Design was born out of a need for my own self-healing after decades of unresolved illness. It wasn’t until finding the courage to look within that I discovered it was my own belief system holding me back from experiencing a truly thriving life. We all have access to that thriving life. We just need to rediscover our power and ignite the healing-self. Only then can we unapologetically live a life by our own design.