Wild and wise.
Soft and fierce.
Light and dark.
Reason and emotion.
Breaking and healing.
I saw this Yoko Ono quote the other day and was immediately drawn to it. The idea of opposing forces, complementing and balancing each other, has always been so intriguing to me.
Growing up, I was in love with black and white everything. I had tear-outs from magazines posted on my walls of what I wanted my home to look like; all long black leather couches, black and white photography, high vaulted white walls and Carrara marble floors.
I spent a lot of time stepping in and out of each extreme though. Believing I needed to have both feet in one or the other. I couldn't be simultaneously wild and wise or soft and fierce. I had to choose. It wasn't until later in life when I realized walking that line between opposing forces is where the real magic is.
As that perspective evolved, my outer world followed. The interior design of my little studio is now all neutral ivories, greys, whites and shades of black. After months of inner turmoil wondering where I'd make my home, NYC or LA, I realized I can have both, one the antidote to the other. And I now know that I can break and heal at the same time without sinking into the breaking or fighting to stay in the light of healing.
I took that range into my work this week as I created my first workshop on redesigning your mind for a retreat in Mexico this weekend (not so humble brag). While I developed the syllabus and presentation, I knew I didn't have to choose between both worlds of art and science, emotion and reason. The companionship of both is what creates the most substance and ultimately leads to the most understanding. It’s two ways of reaching the same truth. Essentially, staying wild and very wise.
Life by Design was born out of a need for my own self-healing after decades of unresolved illness. It wasn’t until finding the courage to look within that I discovered it was my own belief system holding me back from experiencing a truly thriving life. We all have access to that thriving life. We just need to rediscover our power and ignite the healing-self. Only then can we unapologetically live a life by our own design.