Nicole RaymondiComment

Nicole RaymondiComment
        It’s not what did you eat, it’s who did you eat with.” - Greek proverb  Last  full day here on the East Coast. I just had breakfast with my family at  a little diner in my hometown (I had eggs, bacon, and home fries - it  was not this pretty) and wanted to talk about something that’s been  different this trip.  I got to a point about a year ago where I  was anxious about leaving my own kitchen to eat out. I know many of us  have been there. I can proudly say I never turned down a social event  because of the food choices (I love to socialize too much) but I was  guilty of carefully researching the menu beforehand, stressing out about  what I could or couldn’t eat while I was there - usually eating what I  deemed to be on the “no” list, then ruminating over it after for hours.  Because I wasn’t controlling food for weight reasons - and was doing it  for health reasons - I convinced myself this wasn’t disordered eating.  It was informed, conscious, and intelligent eating. It was some of those  things to a degree - but all of those things don’t matter if it saps  your ability to enjoy the company you’re with, including yourself as all  of those negative thoughts creep in.  I do believe there needs  to be a huge shift in our food supply. Those changes are already  happening in our culture but it’s a complex process that will take time.  In the meantime, we can’t control everything we eat. You can make the  best choices available, but it’s hard to stress over something that’s  been cooked in GMO canola oil or meat that isn’t organic when you’re  traveling or out with family and friends because in that moment - it’s  out of your control.  So my advice to you after this rant is to  do some deeper exploration on what it is that’s causing the need to  control food, or anything else for that matter. Like I always say,  that’s just the top layer, it’s about uncovering what’s beneath those  behaviors so you can order the fries or eat a non-grass-fed burger once  and awhile and think about the conversation, not the food.

It’s not what did you eat, it’s who did you eat with.” - Greek proverb

Last full day here on the East Coast. I just had breakfast with my family at a little diner in my hometown (I had eggs, bacon, and home fries - it was not this pretty) and wanted to talk about something that’s been different this trip.

I got to a point about a year ago where I was anxious about leaving my own kitchen to eat out. I know many of us have been there. I can proudly say I never turned down a social event because of the food choices (I love to socialize too much) but I was guilty of carefully researching the menu beforehand, stressing out about what I could or couldn’t eat while I was there - usually eating what I deemed to be on the “no” list, then ruminating over it after for hours. Because I wasn’t controlling food for weight reasons - and was doing it for health reasons - I convinced myself this wasn’t disordered eating. It was informed, conscious, and intelligent eating. It was some of those things to a degree - but all of those things don’t matter if it saps your ability to enjoy the company you’re with, including yourself as all of those negative thoughts creep in.

I do believe there needs to be a huge shift in our food supply. Those changes are already happening in our culture but it’s a complex process that will take time. In the meantime, we can’t control everything we eat. You can make the best choices available, but it’s hard to stress over something that’s been cooked in GMO canola oil or meat that isn’t organic when you’re traveling or out with family and friends because in that moment - it’s out of your control.

So my advice to you after this rant is to do some deeper exploration on what it is that’s causing the need to control food, or anything else for that matter. Like I always say, that’s just the top layer, it’s about uncovering what’s beneath those behaviors so you can order the fries or eat a non-grass-fed burger once and awhile and think about the conversation, not the food.

Life by Design was born out of a need for my own self-healing after decades of unresolved illness. It wasn’t until finding the courage to look within that I discovered it was my own belief system holding me back from experiencing a truly thriving life. We all have access to that thriving life. We just need to rediscover our power and ignite the healing-self. Only then can we unapologetically live a life by our own design.