With my Dad visiting from the East Coast last weekend a number of things happened. We took full advantage of LA’s car culture (weekly stories highlights are updated if you’re interested!), we shared some really good laughs, and we had some really tough conversations.
Conversations about both of our businesses - he’s a small business owner and quite the seasoned veteran when it comes to balancing all of the complexities of entrepreneurship - and conversations about, well, life.
He has this enormous capacity to remind me what’s important in life and to reignite the excitement and passion I’ve shared for everything this life has to offer. He’s one of those people that leaves you feeling invigorated after a conversation. Alive and full of enthusiasm for the future (keep those people around).
But as part of those conversations, one theme that came up (ironically insync with Halloween) was the idea that someday we’ll be dead. Morbid, maybe, but more so - revitalizing. We talked about the history of racing and the pull to the dangers of that sport amidst the thrill of it. Dissecting the idea that sometimes, flirting ever so slightly with the notion of death is the best way to remind yourself just how fragile this life really is. And to feel the most alive.
It brought me back to a quote from one of my favorite speeches of all time. The Steve Jobs commencement speech given at Stanford University years ago. In it, he reminds us;
“Remembering that I’ll be dead soon is the most important tool I’ve ever encountered to help me make the big choices in life. Because almost everything — all external expectations, all pride, all fear of embarrassment or failure — these things just fall away in the face of death, leaving only what is truly important. Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart.”
All of the minutia just melts away with this reminder. You are already naked.
PS in light of this perspective (and car culture) I’m throwing it back to that time I “modeled” for the new Tesla but was too embarrassed to share. 😬
Life by Design was born out of a need for my own self-healing after decades of unresolved illness. It wasn’t until finding the courage to look within that I discovered it was my own belief system holding me back from experiencing a truly thriving life. We all have access to that thriving life. We just need to rediscover our power and ignite the healing-self. Only then can we unapologetically live a life by our own design.