Shit I'm tired of hearing; walk away from things (more specifically people) that don't serve you.   There  was a time in my life when I thought walking away, detaching, and  closing off painful parts of my life and my relationships was the only  solution. I walked away from dozens (sadly this is an understatement) of  great guys (and one in particular who refused to go away) as soon as  they had one slip up, one imperfection. In the rare case I couldn't find  anything wrong, and weeks turned to months, I would walk away out of  fear for them getting too close. My instinct was to walk (or run) before  things got too serious - because I wasn't ready to face myself. So, I  blazed a trail of heartbreak, but more importantly broke my own heart  over and over again.    Not only was I literally walking away  from other people but I was walking away from my emotions. I struggled  to figure out why I couldn't "settle down," "be with a nice guy," and  "commit," when my friends were off posting facebook updates of proposals  and talking about the color of their bridesmaid dresses (heads up the  color doesn't matter they're all ugly 🙃). It wasn't until moving to LA  and running this pattern AGAIN for the one hundredth time that I  realized walking away from my emotions was the thing that wasn't serving  me, not the people. Since then, I've done a lot of self reflection, and  am blown away by what has unfolded in such a short time. Things that  I've been avoiding for a lifetime.   So my advice to you is the  answer is not always to walk away from the things that aren't serving  you. Sometimes, it serves you to lean into those things and really see  them for what they are. People are your mirrors, and staying to take a  long hard look at yourself isn't as easy as walking away - but it's  worth it.

Shit I'm tired of hearing; walk away from things (more specifically people) that don't serve you.

There was a time in my life when I thought walking away, detaching, and closing off painful parts of my life and my relationships was the only solution. I walked away from dozens (sadly this is an understatement) of great guys (and one in particular who refused to go away) as soon as they had one slip up, one imperfection. In the rare case I couldn't find anything wrong, and weeks turned to months, I would walk away out of fear for them getting too close. My instinct was to walk (or run) before things got too serious - because I wasn't ready to face myself. So, I blazed a trail of heartbreak, but more importantly broke my own heart over and over again.

Not only was I literally walking away from other people but I was walking away from my emotions. I struggled to figure out why I couldn't "settle down," "be with a nice guy," and "commit," when my friends were off posting facebook updates of proposals and talking about the color of their bridesmaid dresses (heads up the color doesn't matter they're all ugly 🙃). It wasn't until moving to LA and running this pattern AGAIN for the one hundredth time that I realized walking away from my emotions was the thing that wasn't serving me, not the people. Since then, I've done a lot of self reflection, and am blown away by what has unfolded in such a short time. Things that I've been avoiding for a lifetime.

So my advice to you is the answer is not always to walk away from the things that aren't serving you. Sometimes, it serves you to lean into those things and really see them for what they are. People are your mirrors, and staying to take a long hard look at yourself isn't as easy as walking away - but it's worth it.

Life by Design was born out of a need for my own self-healing after decades of unresolved illness. It wasn’t until finding the courage to look within that I discovered it was my own belief system holding me back from experiencing a truly thriving life. We all have access to that thriving life. We just need to rediscover our power and ignite the healing-self. Only then can we unapologetically live a life by our own design.