It’s been a while since I’ve done a racing post but this move got me thinking about it recently.  Mostly because I’ve been listening to myself repeatedly say over the last week, month, year, 2 years even, that I’ll get to that thing, that project, that new practice, when things settle down. I think to myself; Just make this move then get back to (or start) fill in the blank.  I had that same thought this morning as I sit in the Atlanta airport after I threw my stuff into a new apartment last week, had family visiting over the weekend, then boarded a plane to see a friend on the East Coast and head to the Dominican Republic today. Just one more week, Nicole, then things will calm down.  Things never calm down though, because I don’t want them too. It took me a long time to realize that. I thrive at this pace and enjoy the novelty of living this way, one new experience leading to the next.  It also took me a long time to realize that if I overdo it, I am no longer thriving. I become anxious and stressed. It’s a fine edge to dance on.  In racing, I remember learning the same lesson. When you first get out on the track, whether it’s been weeks since your last drive or a couple hours since your last session, you’re off pace. Things seem to be moving fast but you’re going slower. You’re not sure what corners next and you’re constantly trying to find the balance between pushing the car to its limits and not overdoing it. You’re all in your head.  After a few times around though, running the same lines, hitting the brakes at the same time, making the same turns, you start to fall into a rhythm. Things start to flow. Your muscle memory comes back, the body takes over, and the mind can relax.  I think life’s the same way. If you want to add something to your life you have to make space for it in your daily rhythm. And daily life doesn’t stop when we travel, when work gets busy, when we move, etc. It’s all life. It’s all one flowing seamless story.  My Dad used to say, “Routine will set you free,” but I think rhythm will set you free. Finding a pace that works for you then holding to your rituals despite the changing conditions. To me, that’s real self love.

It’s been a while since I’ve done a racing post but this move got me thinking about it recently.

Mostly because I’ve been listening to myself repeatedly say over the last week, month, year, 2 years even, that I’ll get to that thing, that project, that new practice, when things settle down. I think to myself; Just make this move then get back to (or start) fill in the blank.

I had that same thought this morning as I sit in the Atlanta airport after I threw my stuff into a new apartment last week, had family visiting over the weekend, then boarded a plane to see a friend on the East Coast and head to the Dominican Republic today. Just one more week, Nicole, then things will calm down.

Things never calm down though, because I don’t want them too. It took me a long time to realize that. I thrive at this pace and enjoy the novelty of living this way, one new experience leading to the next.

It also took me a long time to realize that if I overdo it, I am no longer thriving. I become anxious and stressed. It’s a fine edge to dance on.

In racing, I remember learning the same lesson. When you first get out on the track, whether it’s been weeks since your last drive or a couple hours since your last session, you’re off pace. Things seem to be moving fast but you’re going slower. You’re not sure what corners next and you’re constantly trying to find the balance between pushing the car to its limits and not overdoing it. You’re all in your head.

After a few times around though, running the same lines, hitting the brakes at the same time, making the same turns, you start to fall into a rhythm. Things start to flow. Your muscle memory comes back, the body takes over, and the mind can relax.

I think life’s the same way. If you want to add something to your life you have to make space for it in your daily rhythm. And daily life doesn’t stop when we travel, when work gets busy, when we move, etc. It’s all life. It’s all one flowing seamless story.

My Dad used to say, “Routine will set you free,” but I think rhythm will set you free. Finding a pace that works for you then holding to your rituals despite the changing conditions. To me, that’s real self love.

Life by Design was born out of a need for my own self-healing after decades of unresolved illness. It wasn’t until finding the courage to look within that I discovered it was my own belief system holding me back from experiencing a truly thriving life. We all have access to that thriving life. We just need to rediscover our power and ignite the healing-self. Only then can we unapologetically live a life by our own design.