“Healing proceeds from the depths to the heights.” - Carl Jung
Being home in Upstate, NY for the holidays with family and old friends always puts things into perspective.
It’s amazing to me how your mind and body can settle into a past form of existence the moment you step back into an environment that was once your world. The front door of my childhood home still clicks the same way it used to when I was a growing up, catching slightly at first, then opening almost all at once as the warm air inside meets the cold from the outside. Roads that I haven’t traveled in years rise to the surface of my memory and I feel my car glide around corners and slow down for stop signs like it doesn’t need me as its driver anymore. But the strongest form of familiarity comes in human form. All of those well acquainted faces, voices, smiles, laughs, and embraces fill me up while simultaneously stirring up all the dusty areas of my soul.
In prior years, I would have quickly categorized those memories and experiences as good or bad, pleasurable and painful. But this year, I have a new approach.
Don’t get me wrong, I still believe there’s a place in this world for duality. Opposite forces always fascinated me. Not because they are opposing and conflicting, but because they are complimentary. They do not cancel each other out, but balance one another like the wings of a bird.
Instead, I’m redefining the definition of that duality. I’m choosing to see every experience, both old and new, as one to be celebrated and one to be healed. That way, instead of the immobility of good or bad - pleasurable and painful - it’s activating. There’s movement in celebrating and healing. Movement that propels us forward from the depths to the heights, like the wings of that bird taking flight.
Life by Design was born out of a need for my own self-healing after decades of unresolved illness. It wasn’t until finding the courage to look within that I discovered it was my own belief system holding me back from experiencing a truly thriving life. We all have access to that thriving life. We just need to rediscover our power and ignite the healing-self. Only then can we unapologetically live a life by our own design.